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Serena Changes Femininity for the Better.

Updated: May 26

A Positive Outlook on the NYT ‘exposure’ of women’s femininity issues

Lets talk about age old issues that need to be abolished, one’s like the idea that a female athlete can’t get too much of an athletic body or else she’ll look less of a woman. GIVE ME A BREAK! Before I even go on, I will suggest that you read the supporting article, which you can find at this link:

Referenced New York Times Article

My issue is not with race, my issue is not with the fact of women being uncomfortable with their athletic bodies (I’ve been there), my issue is with the anti-feminism critics that fail to realize how “ever more” uncomfortable that article would make a young girl ,or even a woman, feel about building an optimal athletic body over what society see’s as a feminine body. If we get technical, the definition of a woman is minutely about the shape of her body. If it was all about body then all men would be muscular, and all women would be full and hippy. But that’s not the case is it? No where in widely read publications do you see a story about our leaner male tennis players being too skinny, or having a womanly toned butt, or pecs that look like small breasts! Its ridiculous! The point is that the article should not have even been a discussion. At the justice of the author, Ben Rothenberg, who states that “I wanted it to be a conversation starter” when he referred to his article, definitely succeeded! In general, I do not ask that men with bodies that resemble some women be bashed, or that we begin encouraging articles that focus on men’s insecurities, but I would rather see a few more articles that talk about empowering women of all different forms. We can’t ignore that there is a big difference in the amount of lee-way that woman have in comparison to men when it comes to appearance. And some of the effects appeared in some of the comments in the NYT article, with statements like;

“I talk about it all the time, how it was uncomfortable for someone like me to be in my body.”

“And then I feel like there are 80 million people in Germany who think I’m a bodybuilder. Then, when they see me in person, they think I’m O.K.”

“I just feel unfeminine,” she said. “I don’t know — it’s probably that I’m self-conscious about what people might say. It’s stupid, but it’s insecurities that every woman has, I think. I definitely have them and I’m not ashamed to admit it. I would love to be a confident player that is proud of her body. Women, when we grow up we’ve been judged more, our physicality is judged more, and it makes us self-conscious.”

“It’s our decision to keep her as the smallest player in the top 10,” said Tomasz Wiktorowski, the coach of Agnieszka Radwanska, who is listed at 5 feet 8 and 123 pounds. “Because, first of all she’s a woman, and she wants to be a woman.”

3 out of 4 of these statements came from women. That just breaks my heart. Because being very toned and athletic myself, I felt the way they explain a lot of my life. Only 2 people had ever mentioned anything about me “looking manly” or “being a bit too muscular , and it scarred me for ages. But now that I’m older and I see the same cycles circulating, its disappointing. The moral of the story is that you can’t stop people from saying the things that they say, all you can do is kick-ass by being you and do it with a smile. Serena does a spectacular job at that, and it shows! It’s a woman’s choice to decide how she will live and nurture her body, so I have no quarrel with women who prefer a slimmer build. But I do have an itch for the individual who frowns at a woman with an athletic physique, especially when there are so many other more important things in this world that are actually worth frowning about, not to mention things that should be NYT FRONT PAGE WORTHY!


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